Are You Holding Yourself Back with a Lack of Confidence?

Are You Holding Yourself Back with a Lack of Confidence?

This morning, I was feeling kind of rubbish. I mean really, really crappy. Physically, I have the flu and I feel knackered and run down. Mentally, I am going through a major wobble, a major ‘Why is this happening?’ dreading the future, thinking all the negative thoughts, thinking ‘What the F**K is going to happen to me? How will I survive?  Should I just try and get a job in a supermarket?  How could I ever think that I can be happy or successful?’ etc etc etc  Emotionally, I was just trying to walk to the coffee shop without bursting into tears, and just about managing it. Sometimes, life can seem really hopelessly messy. My life certainly seems really messy at times. And it doesn’t matter how many qualifications you have, how much therapy you have had, how much time you spend meditating, doing yoga and drinking wheat grass, life STILL gets messy……….or is that just me? When this happens to me, I figure I have two choices. One is curl up in a heap with Netflix and chocolate. Two is ask some useful questions.  Not ‘why is this happening?’ but more like ‘What could I do with this?  What can I learn from this?  How can this be better?  How can I see this differently?’ Today, I was very lucky because I had already arranged to have a life coaching session, and Fiona, my coach is such a gorgeous person that I already knew that just having her around would cheer me up. But Fiona did a lot more than just cheer me up. She made me see...
Inspiring others with your story

Inspiring others with your story

Inspiring others with your story One of the main reasons that human beings love stories is because they can help us to learn useful strategies for dealing with life’s many ups and downs and rocky patches.  When we are struggling with grief, or loss or money worries or health challenges or any of the many, many things that we struggle with……even just that thing of wondering if other people will think we are ugly or not good enough……we read stories about people who have MUCH bigger problems and challenges than we have, people who get through those challenges and tell us ‘Hey, I got through it and you can too!”.  These people’s stories are often featured in the media, and they can really lift our spirits when we are feeling a bit sorry for ourselves. One absolutely AMAZING and totally awe-inspiring story that I recently read was about a teenage girl from Syria called Nujeen Mustafa.  Nujeen is a refugee (she absolutely detests the word refugee, more than any other word in the English language, she says it means a second class citizen, someone that everyone wishes would go away).  She made the journey from war-torn Aleppo in her wheelchair on a rubber dinghy to the Greek island of Lesbos, and is now waiting for asylum in Germany. To help her with the sheer terror of the journey, she practiced breathing exercises that she learned from watching ‘Brain Games’ on National Geographic, which showed how feelings of fear and panic are controlled by the brain.  She breathed deeply and told herself over and over that she was strong. This amazing...
Should you shag a celebrity?

Should you shag a celebrity?

Is it a good idea to shag a celebrity, if you want to increase your profile in the media? The short answer is that there are two answers. The first is yes, it can really work wonders for your profile.  The power and influence of celebrity is such that anyone who gets into any kind of relationship with a famous person can become famous by association.  I should know! I have become well known as a result of having a famous partner (Shane Mac Gowan) and this has resulted in all kinds of global media exposure, including countless television documentaries, newspaper, radio, magazine and even prime time news interviews, and my personal favourite, a pop video directed by and starring Johnny Depp where I get to play his girlfriend and beat him up with my handbag. That Woman’s Got Me Drinking video. My profile has been raised enormously by this association. And we can all think of many, many other people who we might never have heard of, had they not been in relationships with famous people, however short or scandalous the relationships have been.  Think Monica Lewinsky, Rebecca Loos, Jesus Luz, Carlos Leon (Madonna) Soon Yi Previn (Woody Allen). Even people who are already relatively well known in their fields can go stratospheric when they hook up with someone who is already stratospheric.  We might never have heard of Amber Heard, had it not been for Johnny Depp, likewise Amal Alamuddin (now Clooney) John Mayer and Justin Theroux, Romain Dauriac (Scarlett Johansson). So the answer is yes. But there is another answer. You can get a lot of...
Did something strange ever happen to you?

Did something strange ever happen to you?

People are fascinated by experiences that are out of the ordinary.  Maybe because we all want to know how WE would respond to anything weird that life might throw at us, we want to read about other people’s experiences to give us some clues! Jeanna Giese was 15 years old when she was bitten by a rabid bat whilst attending Sunday mass at her local church in Wisconsin.  Three weeks later she was hospitalised, semi-delirious, vomiting and unable to stand properly. Her parents were told that she had only hours to live.  Nobody had ever survived rabies, but Jeanna was fortunate enough to have a far thinking physician who tried an experimental cure.  She was put into a coma, and given ketamine and she became the first person ever to survive rabies.  She is now an ambassador for the Global Alliance for Rabies Control.  She wrote about her experience for the ‘Experience’ page of the Guardian. You may not have had rabies, but you may have had another strange, weird, wonderful, or unusual experience that you could share with the media?  You can incorporate the story of your business into the story!  (photo by Sarah Stathas for The Guardian)   PS Schedule a FREE 30 minute Media Strategy Call with me to see how YOU can become media magnificent!...
Should you get tipsy with a journalist?

Should you get tipsy with a journalist?

Maybe you are a bit nervous about being interviewed?  Perhaps the journalist is someone that you know well?  Is it ever a good idea to get drunk while being interviewed? The jury is out on this one!  Some of our most famous (and notorious) actors, musicians, writers, fashion designers and other creatives have been known to get drunk and sometimes to behave badly during interviews, hurling insults, hurling furniture, or even actually hurling!  The late, great Elizabeth Taylor, her occasional husband Richard Burton, such giants as Oliver Reed and Peter O Toole, and more recently Amy Winehouse and Pete Doherty spring to mind.  Sometimes, this adds to the drama in a way that makes the media hungry for more, because people love drama.  But at what cost?   Jilly Cooper OBE, the best selling author of such ‘bonkbusters’ as ‘Riders’, ‘Polo’ and ‘Score!” recently featured in a cover article in the Sunday Times magazine, in which she and the interviewer Camilla Long ‘toss more white wine down our throats’ while Jilly describes the artist Grayson Perry as a ‘wanker’ who is ‘without talent’.  Towards the end of the interview, Camilla Long says that ‘brightens, preparing to take me on a drunken tour of her beautiful lawn.’  She is later described as ‘begging me not to mention any unpleasantness,’ a request which is ignored. I have interviewed Jilly at her home and she is well known for being frank, open and even perhaps shocking in her descriptions of her own sex life and those of the people that she knows.  But one senses that in this interview, which she is...
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