I have been wanting to look good in a bikini, but I don’t want to have to spend my life dieting and exercising, so I asked the angels if they can help!

 

Me

I am worried that this might be a completely insurmountable problem.  It is a problem that I share with millions and millions of people all over the world and nobody seems to have come up with a satisfactory solution, so it may be beyond you and I wont be surprised if it is.   But I am going to ask you for help anyway.

 

I want to be thinner than I am.  But I also love to eat, and I especially love to eat out in restaurants.  And when I go to a restaurant I don’t want to just eat grilled chicken and salad!  I want to eat the stuff I like!  I also like to drink wine.  I am not really fat.  But I am not skinny.  I am not as slim as I would like to be.

 

The real problem is that I know that I can be as slim as I like to be, because I have been that slim.  At the beginning of last year I was actually wearing a bikini and feeling good in it!  But it took a lot of work to get to be that size.  A huge amount of exercise and also a lot of time spent eating nothing but raw vegetables and not having wine or coffee or sugar.  I achieved it by going on yoga holidays and detox retreats.  But as soon as I came home and started eating normally and socialising and drinking wine and not doing yoga all day, I went back to my normal size and shape.  In fact, I am now bigger than I was before I did the detox diets.

 

My question is this.  Is there actually a way to be the size and shape that I want to be without having to work so hard at it?  Or is it simply a case of having to make the sacrifice to get the result?

 

A

 

We are very glad that you have asked this question!

 

You are right in saying that it is a problem that you share with a lot of people.  But this does not by any means mean that it is an insurmountable problem!  Indeed, we relish this challenge that you are offering .

 

Let us begin with an exercise, if you do not object?

 

Me

 

An exercise?  Okay.

 

A

 

May we ask you how it feels to you in your body, when you think of this problem?

 

Me

 

It feels awful.  I feel tense, especially in the top part of my abdomen, my solar plexus.  Really tense.  I also feel very angry and frustrated.  Today I went to a boutique and tried on some clothes and they were all too tight for me.  Much too tight.  I have to squeeze myself into all of my jeans at the moment and I have a big belly.  It really is frustrating!

 

A

 

What is it that you wish for, in this situation?  What would be the ideal outcome for you?

 

Me

 

Ideally I would find a super quick and easy way to slim down to the size I used to be.  Not the agonising struggle that I usually have to go through.  And then, when I got to that size I would ideally be able to stay exactly the same size no matter what I eat or drink!  Without necessarily having to work out every day.

 

A

 

And just for a moment, even if it seems far-fetched, could you imagine that we have been able to make this happen for you?

 

Me

 

I will try.

 

Okay I did that.

 

A

 

How does it feel, to imagine that you have arrived at your desired solution?

 

Me

 

It feels very pleasant!  Very relaxing.

 

A

 

How does your stomach feel now?  How is the tension?

 

Me

 

My stomach feels relaxed.  The tension is gone.

 

A

 

And the frustration?

 

Me

 

I don’t feel frustrated, either.  I feel calm.

 

A

 

In this moment, how do you feel about the problem?

 

Me

 

I feel too relaxed right now to be worried about my weight.  But I know that the problem will come back!  The fact is, I am sitting in a comfy chair on my own writing, so my weight is not an issue.  When I have to get dressed up to go somewhere I will be reminded of it!

 

A

 

And so, could you please imagine that you are doing exactly that?  You are getting dressed up to go somewhere.  Is it important where you are going?

 

Me

 

Yes, it is important.  If I were going to the shops it would not be as worrying as if I were going to a party.  The other night, when I was getting ready to go to the Speaking Supper, I was very aware of it because of how tight my clothes were.  I have handfuls of flab around my middle which were not there even a month ago.

 

A

 

As you think about these handfuls of flab, how do you feel?

 

Me

 

Disgusted.  Frightened that it has gone beyond my control and that I wont be able to stop it.

 

A

 

And how is the tension now?

 

Me

 

It is back.  Especially in my jaws.

 

A

 

We would ask that you be patient with us, in this situation.  We do assure you that there is a solution to your problem, and that together we will arrive at that solution.  We also assure you that you will be surprised and delighted when you realise how easy it was to reach your goal.  Can you be patient with us?

 

Me

 

I expect I can, yes.  I think it would be worth it!

 

A

 

As you think about how it feels to get ready to go out and to notice that your clothes are too tight, notice how it feels in your body.  Notice where you feel the feelings.

 

Me

 

Again it is in my stomach, which gets very tense and also in my jaws.

 

A

 

Excellent.  Can you bring your attention first of all to your stomach?  Just placing your hands on your stomach, can you imagine that pure love is being directed through your hands and into that place which feels tense?

 

Me

 

Okay

 

A

 

Do not worry about how this will happen, simply pretend that it is happening!

 

Me

 

Okay.

 

A

 

As you imagine this love, perhaps you may wish to imagine that even as you beam it into your own body, you are simultaneously beaming it into the bodies of all of those people who feel the same way as you do about their stomachs.

 

Me

 

WOW!  That feels amazing!  Like my stomach understands what is happening and really appreciates the feeling of being loved instead of hated!

 

A

 

Indeed, you may find this hard to believe, or perhaps you may not, but every single cell in your body is conscious and intelligent, and every single cell in your body is capable of feeling happy or sad!  As you continually direct unkind and unloving thoughts towards a particular part of your body, the cells in that part of your body literally become depressed.  There have been many experiments conducted involving the deliberate projection of positive and loving thoughts towards plants and towards water, as well as to the human body and the results clearly show the effect that your thoughts can have on the organism that you are thinking about.

 

Me

 

I have actually seen some of the research that you are talking about!  Dr Masaru Emoto changed the cells of water by projecting positive messages to it.

 

A

 

You body, as you probably know is composed mainly of water.  Can you imagine how effective it might be for you to deliberately project loving thoughts to the cells of your body on a daily basis?

 

Me

 

You know, that makes perfect sense!  Why did I not think of that?

 

A

 

You live in a world in which many people are dissatisfied with their bodies.  This dissatisfaction can easily be exploited for commercial purposes, and is extremely valuable to many businesses!  If everybody were to just begin to think loving thoughts about their own bodies on a regular basis, there would be a strange shift in the kinds of products and services that are popular and commercially viable!

 

Me

 

But is it really as simple as you are suggesting?  I could sit here every day and think loving thoughts about my stomach, but would that really make any difference to how I look in a bikini?  Be realistic!

 

A

 

Obviously you will need to experiment for yourself!  You will not want to take our word for it.  Perhaps you could try it for a few weeks and see what happens?

 

Me

 

Okay, I tried it for a few weeks.  Actually, I tried it for a month.  I did not do it every day, I only did it occasionally, when I remembered to.  What I did remember was not to think nasty thoughts about my body and if I caught myself doing that, I remembered to stop!

 

What I noticed was that I became much happier with my body.  I also became more physically active in ways that were fun and exhilarating, rather than just doing endless crunches and sit-ups.  I went on holidays to Ibiza and I swam and kayaked and did yoga and had a really good time.

 

Usually, when I am on holidays I am so busy thinking about covering up the bits I don’t like that I don’t relax and enjoy being able to wear very little.  But this time I wore shorts and short dresses and felt really pretty good about myself!  I still have a bit of fat around my middle, but I definitely don’t hate myself for it!  I know that I can do more exercise and get a more toned look if I want to.  But I also know that I don’t need to do that, in order to love my body.  That sounds corny, but it is true.


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